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Umhla ombi yindawo ongafuni ukuba kuyo. Akukho siphoso somnye, kodwa nokuba ubonakala ungena njani na kwi-Intanethi, unokuzifumana lula kwindawo kawonke-wonke kunye nomntu ongamaziyo ukuba unomzabalazo wokwenene kunye nengxoxo elula. Yintoni ekufuneka uyenzile?

Unayo 3 iinketho zikuvulele ukuba uzifumana ngomhla ongahambi kakuhle. Ngomhla ombi ndibhekisa kwinqanaba elibi le-mediocre apho kuthule kube kubi kwaye kuncokolwe incoko, hayi uhlobo lomhla ombi ekufuneka ubaleke kuwo. Unako nokuba –

1) nqumama umhla omfutshane kwaye ugoduke
2) qhubeka, kodwa ungaphindi ubabone
3) zinike elinye ithuba, elinye ixesha.

Akukho sidingo sokulahla impahla yakho kunye ngokwakho ngaphandle kwefestile yegumbi lokuhlala ukuba incoko ayizukuhamba njengoko bebenethemba. Kukho uxinzelelo oluninzi ebantwini ngomhla wokuqala kwaye kunokuba nzima ukuba ube nguwe. Ayifani nodliwanondlebe lomsebenzi, ngeendlela ezininzi.

Ukuba umhla wokuqala awuyompumelelo egqumayo, ukuba ungavuma kwenye? Iithiyitha zingqongqo kakhulu kwinkampu enye okanye kwenye ngaphaya kwale. Ezinye zeedatha ezilukhuni ziyaqina ukuba akukho nkozo ngokukhawuleza kunye nokunxibelelana okunzulu, kuya kufuneka uphose itawuli yokuthandana kwangoko. Ndisenkampini ekholelwa ukuba ungadinga imihla embalwa yokwazana.

Cinga umhlobo wakho wangoku, umzekelo. Ndiyabheja xa uqala ukudibana, ngekhe ucinge ukuba ngenye imini ziya kuba ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni. Ufuna ngaphezu kwepop enye yokwazi umntu – Umhla awufananga ufane novavanyo.

Ukuba awufuni ukunika enye hamba uye kuhlangana nomhla wakho kwakhona, Thumela umyalezo othobekileyo kunye noshukela kubandakanya:

– enkosi kakhulu ngokuthatha ixesha lokudibana nawe
– Baxelele ukuba bahle, kodwa awuzivanga ukuba ulungile
– ndibanqwenelele okuhle kodwa ngethemba elizayo kwaye nithi kwakhona enkosi

Ukuba umhla wakho ukrwada okanye ukrwada, awudingi ukuhlala unembeko kule. Ukuba umhla wakho ukrwada okanye uziva ungakhuselekanga kwinkampani yabo, ungasika umhla omfutshane. Izizathu zibandakanya, Ndiziva ndigula. Oko kuya kuyenza. Isicwangciso esibanzi esibandakanya ifowuni yakho ephathekayo kunye nemeko kaxakeka ayimfuneko. Iimpikiswano ezikhawulezayo kwaye ziqhelekileyo zibandakanya; intloko ebuhlungu, izinyo, tummy ache, isicaphucaphu.

Unokubuya umva kumava amabi okuthandana. I-Laetitia, 32 kwaBrighton wakufumanisa oku emva kothotho lweentsuku ezimbi kubandakanya nezindululo zesondo ngomhla wokuqala, nomnye oshiye phakathi esidlweni sangokuhlwa. Bambelela, inokuba ibiyinto enye ngeentsuku ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. Usikelele uLaetitia ngokumnika enye into.

Awungekhe ulungiselele umhla onjenge-chap ngasentla. U-Laetitia wayibeka emva kwakhe kwaye wanyamezelana nokuthandana, Ekugqibeleni udibana neqabane lakhe lwangoku 8 imihla kamva. U-Laetitia ucebisa ukuba azame kwaye angathathi amava amabi kwangoko, kwaye uqhubeke nokuthandana ngokungakhathali;

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“Umhla ombi awunakuba nanto yakwenza nawe konke ke ngoko zama ukungaziva ukhathazekile. Ngamanye amaxesha awazi ukuba omnye umntu uqhubeka ntoni ebomini babo. Ngokufanelekileyo, ukuthandana ngumdlalo manani.”

Ukuthintela usuku olubi kwindawo yokuqala, kungcono ukubamba intlanganiso ngokobuqu de waneliseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba iprofayile yomhla wakho uza kubonisa ukuba ungubani, imifanekiso kunye nayo yonke.

Njengomthi weembotyi ezibhakiweyo, sonke kufuneka sizithengise. Kukho kodwa, umahluko omkhulu phakathi kokubonisa icala lakho elihle kunye nokwenza ngathi yibhola yenyama.

Ukuba umhla wakho olindelekileyo ubanga ukuba 30 Injineli yonyaka ubudala nekati ebizwa ngokuba yiTiddles, emva koko ufuna ukuqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba uya kuba ubeka eyona yakho ilungileyo / ilokhwe yokunxiba ukuze udibane nothando, tinkler zeenjini. Akukho nto ngaphandle kwenyani eya kwenza.

Ngokukrakra, abantu banokunyaniswa nenyani kwiiprofayili zabo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba, kodwa bayayenza. Ndikhe ndazijonga enye chap eyathi inekati kodwa ayizange. Iyadidizela, kodwa yinyani.

Ngokuka The Guardian, 4.7 abantu abazizigidi bayathandana kwi-Intanethi nakwophando olusanda kwenziwa, 1 ngaphakathi 3 bavumile ukuxoka kwiprofayile yabo yokuthandana. 1 ngaphakathi 3 yenzela inani elikhulu leengqukuva zeengulube ukuze zityhilwe. Ngaphezulu kwesigidi, ukuba ngqo.

Ezona ndawo zixhaphakileyo ngempazamo, ngokwezibalo, zahlukile kumadoda nabafazi. Amadoda alingeka ukuba axoke malunga nobudala, ukuphakama kunye nengeniso ngelixa abasetyhini bekhetha ulwazi olulahlekisayo malunga nobunzima babo, ukwakhiwa ngokomzimba kunye nobudala. Iinyama zehagu zokujonga ngaphandle zibandakanya, kodwa azikhawulelwanga –

– ubunzima, ukuphakama, iminyaka
– umsebenzi
– iziqinisekiso
– imifanekiso yemihla ngemihla

Akukho mntu ukhathazeke ngokwenene ngokuthandana nomntu omfutshane, mdala okanye stockier – Sonke sifuna nje ukudibana nomntu esinokuphila naye ixesha lokuzonwabisa kunye naye, kunye nokuzithanda kancinci. Ukuxoka ngaphambi kokuba udibane okwangoku akubonisi ukuba ungasebenzi, ayibekeki kakuhle kwixesha elizayo. Jonga izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe ngobuchule kwiincoko zakho ze-Intanethi; buza izishumi malunga nemisebenzi kunye nezinto zokuzonwabisa kwaye ufumane amabali angemva kweefoto zeprofayile. Qiniseka ukuba nawe akayoluli inyani, kungakhokelela ekubeni kukukora ngaphezulu kumgca. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, qinisekisa ukuba unakho ukufikelela.

Ukuthandana kungabiza kakhulu ngokwexesha, imali kunye nethemba elilahliweyo. Kuyavakala ukuba isikhwama sakho semali kunye nentliziyo yakho kufuneka kucoceke usuku olunokwenzeka olungachanekanga ngokukhawuleza.

Impumelelo yomtshato inokuba yeyakho – qhubeka nje. Xa ujongene nomhla ombi, gcina i-chin yakho, ukonwabele ukuncokola nomntu okhanyayo kwaye umtsha kwaye emva koko uqhubeke nokuthandana.

Ikhekhe entle kwaye ugweme usuku olubi – Konke kulungiselele

– Fumanisa ukuba lide kangakanani ithuba lakho lokufumana i-intanethi ukuthandana. Abanye bangamakhoboka okuthandana. Awufuni ukuba ngolunye ixesha elifutshane.

– uhlala ekwi-Intanethi? Uphawu olubi. Bangakwazi njani ukulingana kubomi obonwabisayo ukuba bahlala bengena? Ikwacebisa ukuba bangathandana nabantu abaninzi, ezinye zilungile, kodwa ayisiyabo abanolusu oluthambileyo. Ngokwezibalo, 53% yabantu abaphononongiweyo bavuma ukuthandana nabantu ababini ngaxeshanye, zilungiselele ke.

– ukuthumela imiyalezo kakhulu? Ukuthumela imiyalezo kuphela kungqina ukuba umntu unefowuni kunye neenombolo. Thatha imiyalezo kancinci, ayisiyo ukuzinikela okunzima kwisicatshulwa kwaye umntu ongena ngaphakathi kuwe uya kukunika umnxeba endaweni yoko.

– ekubeni utshilo, ukunciphisa umfowunelwa wakho ngaphambi kokuba udibane. Fumana okwaneleyo ukumisela ukuba ungangena kodwa ungangaphezulu kwencoko yangaphambi kokuhlangana. Awufuni kumisela uqhakamshelwano olukhulu lombhalo kwaye udibane kwaye ufumane ukuba awuhambi kwi-3D. Nobuqili.

– ukuba uyadibana, Cebisa usuku kwivenkile yekofu ngexesha losuku. Kwivenkile yokutyela, ungahamba ngovuyo emva kokuba 30 umzuzu wokuncokola ngeti kunye ne-muffin, kwaye kulungile. Kwi-pub unokuziva unetyala yonke ubusuku bonke kwaye ubeka emngciphekweni wokunxila.

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