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Ndaphelelwa lithemba ndaze ndancedwa nakukufika kwamantombazana, Uhlalutyo lomgangatho amantombazana, nditsho nokukhalimela amantombazana. Owu, Ndingafumana intombi ngamaxesha ngamaxesha ngengozi – Andiqinisekanga ncam ukuba ndiyenzile – ngokulahla ilizwe laseMelika kanye ngomzuzwana. kwaye ke le nto iphambeneyo yayinjalo, Ndiyakholelwa ukuba bendikade ndindedwa kwi-World Health Organisation ndaziva ngale ndlela. Ndikholelwa ukuba bendikhe ndahluka nje emva kokuba ndingatshatanga. Kodwa, kuba kubonakala ngathi, ukongezwa endikukholelwayo ukuba bendiqhele ukwahluka, ukongezwa endikuvumileyo bendihlala ndilingana njengeemfumba zamadoda ahlukeneyo. Vumela ilizwe laseMelika lithethelele ukuba ukubamba. Ndingangena kwindawo yokudonsa ebomini bam – njengokuba, ukungabi nalwazi – kwaye ndiziphumelele bendiqhele ukuba NDIMODODA onalo mbandela.

Ukongezwa ndingakhathazeka malunga nayo, umba owongezelelekileyo waba. Bendihlala ndazi ukuba abafana abahlukeneyo banezintombi kunye nemihla, Kwaye kwavela mfana ngamnye endandimazi engenayo imicimbi yokuhlangana namantombazana. wakhe waziva njalo? Uphumile ndaweni ithile kwaye kujongeka ngathi umntu ngamnye wayenomhla okanye inenekazi elinaye? obuphoswa ngandlela thile sisikhephe, kwaye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ibe njalo? Ndivakalelwa kukuba wena kwaye umntu ngamnye uyaqonda ukuba le meko inokuba yitoni eyongeziweyo eqhelekileyo kunokuba ibonakala inokuqala. Ukuba awuyiqondi – themba ilizwe laseMelika, Yinyani. phantse indoda nganye ihamba nexesha lakho naphina apho ivakalelwa khona yile fashoni. nangona kunjalo into ebuhlungu yile, abanye abafana abaphumi kuyo. Yinto onokuyithatha isigqibo malunga nembono engachanekanga. nangona kunjalo kubuchule bam, ukuphela kwe-single-ness ayisiyonto yenoveli – kwaye ayikho kwindawo ekude yokulungiswa.

Ukusukela oko bendifundisa amadoda ukuba aphumelele ngohlalutyo lomgangatho kunye namantombazana, Ndifumene ukuqonda okuninzi kunye nolwazi kumbono ochanekileyo ovelisa ukuba ngumsebenzi wesundu. Andizalwanga ngombono ochanekileyo okanye umbono ongachanekanga. ke vumela ilizwe laseMelika ukuba liqale ngolwimi olujolise kwinjongo ebomini bam naphina apho bendinombono ongachanekanga uthathe ixesha lakho. Iminyaka kunye neminyaka yokungabikho kwesundu kwaba neziphumo zayo. ukukhangela ubomi ukwenza izinto ezingachanekanga kunye namantombazana kuyilungisile indlela yam yokujonga amantombazana kunye nohlalutyo lomgangatho, Kwaye ndaba nguMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi. Ndidlule kwizenzo, ndibekho kuloo mntu. Ndaba yindoda e-World Health Organisation engakhange isebenze namantombazana. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba okufanayo kuhlala kufana nokufumana umbono ochanekileyo. Ayenzeki ubusuku obude. kodwa ke kuyakwenzeka.

Ungaqala ukuthatha amanyathelo achanekileyo, ube ngulo mntu, naye. wakha wafumanisa ingcebiso, “Ukuba unqwenela ukwenziwa, Ukujikeleza ujikeleze wenza abafana kwaye benze le nto bayenzayo.” ? Kulungile, Oko ngaba ndandihamba nale nto. Indlela endiyithathileyo yayiluhlobo lwe “yinyani de uyile”. Ndifumene iiseti zamandla zamva nje, ubuchule, phuhlisa imigca, imisebenzi. izinto ezingenakulinganiswa, yonke loo nto yayingeyiyo {inxalenye ye} Umbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi ndandikade ndikho – nangona kunjalo bendiyinxalenye yoMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi endinqwenela ukuba ubekho. Ndinqwenela ukuba yindoda yoMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi ngokungafaniyo nezinto ezichanekileyo kumantombazana – izinto ezinokubakha bathathe imeko yaseMelika njengesithandwa, umntu owabelana naye ngesondo, umntu – into ecaleni kwe “omnye umhlobo” okanye ukuhamba. Ndinqwenela ukuba ngumfana oMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi wayenamantombazana amaninzi ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. naphi na apho uqeqesho, umsebenzi wokuqeqesha nokufunda kukufumana ukudlala.

Njengayo nayiphi na into onqwenela ukuxelelwa, uqala ngeziseko, ezinye izinto eziphindaphindwayo, kunye nokwakha iseti yokubuyisela endaweni yoko. i $64000 umlingo wenzeka nje ukuba izinto ziqale ukuzenzekelayo. Iqala ukuba nguMbutho wezeMpilo kwiHlabathi u. enye yezinto endizithandayo ukuzama nokuzenza yayikukuqala ukuzibonisa ngoba lo mfo ndinqwenela ukuba nguye. kubahlobo bam kuqala. yiyo loo nto umbono wam ubunjalo, “Ndingumfana kwiqela lethu lezeMpilo leHlabathi lifumana bonke abantu basetyhini”. Nangaliphi na ixesha into enje inokubuyela kunxibelelwano oluthethiweyo, Ndingasabela ndenze ngathi “Indoda efumana bonke abafazi”. Akuzange kube kudala ndaqala ukubizwa ngokuba ngulaa mfo. Esi yayisisiqalo sokulungiswa ngokwembono. phambili phambili ngoku, Ndifundisa amadoda yonke imihla indlela yokuphumelela kunye namantombazana. ngendlela, ejolise kwelo xesha, wonke umntu wayeza kucela kum “Ungazama njani kwaye uyenze”. imibuzo efana, naphi na apho umntu abaqonda khona aba bafazi? Uthini omnye wabo ubacebisa? Nangona kunjalo umntu uyakuqonda kube kanye ukuphuza abafazi? Njl. njl.

Nyani kuye kwafuneka ndiyivume. Ndinyanisa, ndiqonde ngqo ukuba mandithini? Ndidinga ukuba nayo, ngenxa yoko bendiqhele ukuba sisilumko xa ndidibana namantombazana. Ngokwesiqhelo, Ndiyiphawule nje – wanyuka ngokulula kwaye waqala ukubakhalimela. Bendisazi ukuba bekuqhubela phambili ukuba ngumceli mngeni wokukhuthaza iimpendulo ezinqwenelwa ngabanye abantu kwaye bazifuna, ngenxa yoko akuzange kuchazwe nje. Ndisazi nje kodwa kwaye ukuba ndizame ukuyenza. bendiqhele ukuba yindalo. ngaphakathi kwendlela yokuyibuza kwaye uyiqhekeze – Bendihlala ndikwazi ukuphinda ndibuyise umzila ukuze ndibuyele kolu hlalutyo lobulunga lujolise kuye wonke umntu. Ngexesha lakho namandla bendihlala ndikulungele ukuwaphula. andikwazi ukugcina engqondweni, njengokuba, YONKE into endiyenzayo – nangona kunjalo ndiqale ukubona ukungqinelana kwezinto kunye neencoko ezibonakala ngathi ziyasebenza. Amanye amacandelo endalo avele azalelwa olohlobo – intsalela abantu banomsebenzi wokuzama ukwenza ukukhuthaza apho. ingqesho kukuba ubuchule, ubungcali, imigca – I-whacky kunye ne-bolts yezenzo endizenzileyo ukukhuthaza injongo naphina apho benditshintshe khona ngokwembono, Kwaye ndandinomdla omkhulu kumantombazana.

Ngenxa yokuba uya kufumana “imigca yokuthabatha” nayiphi na indawo. zininzi izinto ezintle apha phandle – Cela kum nje. Ndithengile ndaza ndaziqhelanisa KONKE. nangona kunjalo ukubenza basebenze, Kuya kufuneka ubuye kwiseti efanelekileyo yengqondo. umbono ochanekileyo. Bonke ubuchule ngaphakathi kwehlabathi ekugqibeleni abunamsebenzi ukuba yindlela elula kwaye ayilungisi uMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi. abafumani mbuso waseMelika ngokungalunganga – Ukwazi nje inani lolwazi ngaphakathi, ngathi ungathetha ngantoni kwaye nokuba uhamba kuphi, njl.… incedise ilizwe laseMelika ukuba libe sundu ngakumbi kunokuba NDANDIKHO ngaphambili.

Kodwa ndisaziva ngathi inye into ebilahlekile. Okanye ekugqibeleni ndiza kuba “ifunyenwe” ayisiyiyo indoda yoMbutho wezeMpilo weHlabathi ekufezekisile ukukhetha- Ndakuba ndiqalisile ukuhlalutya umgangatho wamantombazana amatsha. Andikwazi ukubuya nje ekuqaleni njengendalo – emva koko ndibuyele kwiipateni zam zamva nje zokuba ngumfazi onamantombazana. Obo yayinobunzima kubuchwephesha kunye nemijikelezo – amantombazana ngokungapheliyo khangela ukuba uhlole ukuba ngaba ngokwenene. Ubuthathaka BOKUTHIYA kumntu ogqithisileyo, kwaye bangazama ukuyibhengeza nanini na xa beya kukhuthaza i $64000 wena. Nangona kunjalo ixesha elide kuba oyinyani NGUYE womelele, enomtsalane, Uqinisekisile INDODA efumene ingqalelo yakhe kwindawo yokuqala – uyakubakhona ude ukhethe ukumkhulula. Ibhanki kuyo. indawo yamantombazana ekhangela ngokungaguquguqukiyo isizathu sokuba “phelisa” wena kwingcinga zabo, Ke ngoko i “iimvavanyo”. Nangona kunjalo nantsi into enkulu endiyifumeneyo – Bangezelela ukukhangela isizathu sokuwa kuwe.

Zeziphi izizathu – bobuphi ubungqina – Ngaba umntu unqwenela ukumnika? ndiziva sithambekele kubo bonke ubuchule {ukwakha|ukwenza|ukudala} intombazana ibaleka ikhwaza isuka esithubeni – nangona kunjalo ayisiyiyo indoda nganye eyaziyo indlela yokwenza ukuba itsale ngokukhawuleza. eyona nto ilula oyakuyenza kukwakha umnxeba. Ngoku. ukuba unqwenela nje ukubongoza eli thuba lobomi bakho liphethwe, kwaye ubulale i-wimp yakho yangaphakathi. Emva koko, fumana ubuchule obuthile – kwaye uqale ukusebenza. Ngoku. qaphela abafana indawo yoMbutho wezeMpilo yeHlabathi kunye namantombazana kwaye ubabukele besebenza. zibophe. baphakamise imibuzo. Ngaba akunandaba nokuba unqwenela ukuzama kwaye ufumane ingcebiso kwaye ufumane ukuya phambili.

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